{"id":1617,"date":"2018-06-22T21:49:33","date_gmt":"2018-06-22T21:49:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/awritersheart.com\/?p=1588"},"modified":"2018-06-22T21:49:33","modified_gmt":"2018-06-22T21:49:33","slug":"remember-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.carolhollandmarch.com\/index.php\/2018\/06\/22\/remember-me\/","title":{"rendered":"Remember Me!"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignright size-full wp-image-1590\" src=\"http:\/\/awritersheart.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/crossroads-3.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"231\" height=\"218\" \/>An exercise I use with coaching clients moving through transition is to write their own epitaph.\u00a0 Some are put off by this exercise, but others embrace it.\u00a0 Some find it validates their choices, while others realize their current life does not reflect their true aspirations.<\/p>\n<p>Since we\u2019re all different, what is important to us varies by age, sex, education, income, values, and abilities.\u00a0 And, as we age, our values and perceptions change.<\/p>\n<p>The first half of life is about learning who we are in the world, choosing and establishing careers, and starting a family.\u00a0 For artistic souls, how to express themselves is critical.\u00a0 For security-minded folks, long term safety trumps risky challenges.<\/p>\n<p>Later, as careers progress and families grow, we may find that what was once satisfying has become humdrum, maybe a little boring. At this point, many explore career transition, or develop new avocations.<\/p>\n<p>Difficult life circumstances influence all our decisions.\u00a0 Victims of trauma and abuse who do not receive treatment can find their goals out of reach. They may have financial difficulties, trouble maintaining stable relationships or jobs.\u00a0 They may suffer from a nagging sense that something is wrong but can\u2019t pinpoint what.<\/p>\n<p>Anger and fear not processed block the creative energy that is our birthright.\u00a0 People who want to write, paint, design, or express themselves in any way may find resistance a formidable force.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>I don\u2019t have time.<\/li>\n<li>I don\u2019t know where to start.<\/li>\n<li>I don\u2019t have the right education to do that.<\/li>\n<li>How do I know my work would be good?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>These thoughts are negative programming held in the brain below the level of conscious awareness. \u00a0We can hold beliefs from early childhood to old age without knowing what they are. All we know is that we don\u2019t do what calls us.\u00a0 Not until we learn why we do what we do, can we uncover the beliefs that hold us back.<\/p>\n<p>When asked how they want to be remembered, which is another way of asking, are you on track with your goals?\u00a0 Most people mention:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Family<\/li>\n<li>Relationships<\/li>\n<li>Jobs\/Career<\/li>\n<li>Creative Work<\/li>\n<li>Personal Traits<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>If you try this exercise, and find you\u2019re not engaged in activities related to your goals, this is a clue that it\u2019s time to work on that negative programming.<\/p>\n<p>Like the ancient goddess of crossroads, Hecate, with her ability to look both forward and backward in time, we can use past experiences to guide change in the present, so we can be more confident about how the future will unfold.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>How do you want to be remembered?\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-medium wp-image-1589\" src=\"http:\/\/awritersheart.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/06\/16x20_Hecate_E-494x600-247x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"247\" height=\"300\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>An exercise I use with coaching clients moving through transition is to write their own epitaph.\u00a0 Some are put off by this exercise, but others embrace it.\u00a0 Some find it validates their choices, while others realize their current life does not reflect their true aspirations. 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